YOu need a public advocate. Call your country seat and ask for help from them thatyou need a n advocate tthatare sstrafingand you c\are overworking and that you are overpaying child support. Let them tell you all you can do. You mMUSTffilefor ddownwardmodification also oiPFsshieldsupport amount cclaimingyou cannot eat or pay rent..
I;d reopen the case and state you were a battered wife and left under terms which weren't correct, just to save your ;life. Have a psychol,.ogical exam at a free clininc from a social worker who can determine some sort of beting a battered housewife to enable you to suspend much of the suippoprt for the kids and get SSI. I think you can get SSI,. Look into it.
Suing for child support does not automatically confer custody, for goodness sake! Esp when he has no interest in parenthood. He does have some parental rights, tho. Mom must summon her courage and track his location to obtain court order for sole custody and to compel child support. Leaving the state is no bar to child support obligations in this information age nor is leaving the country. He may contest the amt and succeed. He may apply to terminate his parental rights. Mom must take the necessary steps to obtain sole custody order on terms or he may come back and try it himself. It happens.