Definetly see a lawyer.
Alimony is designed to get a woman 'back on her feet"....if she is doing well for herself now, that she does not need alimony.
Get your evidence together and go back to court.
Grandparents have rights in every state. They are not constitutional in nature as the landmark Supreme Court decision - Troxel vs. Granville - handed down in June, 2000 struck down a federal law guaranteeing grandparents the right to sue for visitation. Recognition of grandparents rights by state legislatures is a fairly recent trend, with most statutes in effect for less than 35 years.
Each case is handled on an individual basis. If parents are married, the family is considered "intact" and the likelihood of a judge granting visitation to grandparents becomes much more difficult. In most cases, it must be proven that it would not be in the child's best interests to remove the grandparent from his life. Grandparents able to show "proof of love" have a much better chance at winning time with their grandchildren in a court of law.
Tragically, many thousands of grandparents are denied access to their grandchildren every year. Reasons vary. Drug/alcohol addiction, divorce, misdirected rage/anger. Whatever the reason/excuse, it is the children who suffer.
Well over 800,000 children in the United States are abused every year - when grandparents are actively involved the rate of abuse does a vertical nosedive.
Grandparents are just that...Grand Parents. They have much more wisdom & experience because they have already raised children. They have much more time & resources and are thus able to "spoil" their offspring's offspring.
We live in a throw-away society - and much too often it is the small innocents who pay a terrible toll for their parent's desire use their children as weapons when they become angry at a perceived offense. This was not so just 30 or so years ago. Extended family members are not only a good idea - they are vital to a child's sense of stability and strength.
Tragically, too many of our children use their children as weapons of mass destruction. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. I'm so very, very sorry that you are experiencing When Grand Parents & Grand Children are torn apart it is tantamount to the death of a loved one and the grief & despair are indescribable.
The world we live in has brought about the need for Grand Parents rights...when our children use our Grand Children as pawns to prove who's "boss" out of spite or revenge or are unable to act responsibly due to alcohol/drug abuse, it's time to make them accountable for the massive destruction they cause.