Consider using a certified mediator to create the final document. This is a paralegal or attorney with specialized training. It would cost you about $300 each.
These are factors to be consider
Joint legal custody
Joint physical custody
How close do you live to him?
How old is the child?
Who covers medical insurance?
Who decides on treatment
How much and how long?
Is support paid through college?
What is the minimum credit hours the child must take?
Who gets the tax deduction?
If the residential parent dies, who gets the child? Never assume anything.
May I ask why the divorce or separation? It's very important that the child have both parents in the home. Is there nothing that can be done toward this end?
Here's a few books that might help.
Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids
Ten Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships
The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage
BIRD nest Custody.
It’s a form of access or custody where the children stay in the former family residence and it is the parents who rotate in and out separately and on a negotiated schedule.
The children simply live at "home" and the separated or divorced parents take turns living with them there, but never at the same time.
The core element of this arrangement is that each parent maintains a separate residence where they live when it is not their turn at the "bird's nest". When one parent arrives for his/her designated time, the other vacates right away, so as to minimize or eliminate the presence of both at the same time.
At times, bird's nest access can be coupled with specified access with the other parent say, for example, for dinner one night a week.
Sometimes, this form of access or custody will end when the youngest child reaches the age of majority at which time, one parent either buys the other out of their interest, if any, in the former family residence, or it is sold and the proceeds divided pursuant to the matrimonial property regime or separation agreement.
The arrangement can be expensive as it generally requires that three separate residences be maintained, the "nest" and a separate residence for each parent.
The concept is somewhat novel and appears to have as its origin a Virginia case Lamont v Lamont.
In Canada, Greenough v Greenough was a ground-breaker case in that the Court implemented a bird's nest custody order even though it had not been asked for by either party. Justice Quinn, in Greenough stated:
"In Lamont ... the court made a bird’s nest custody arrangement in which the children (aged 3 and 5 years) remained in the home, with the mother staying in the home during the week and the father on the weekend. I think that the benefits of a bird’s nest order are best achieved where the children are able to stay in the matrimonial home, particularly if it has been the only residence that they have known....
"Time and time again I have seen cases (and this is one) where the children are being treated as Frisbees. In general, parents do not seem to appreciate the gross disruption to which children are subjected where one of the parents has frequent access. In this regard, I do not believe there must be evidence that the children are suffering before the court is free to act. To me, it is a matter of common sense. At the risk of falling prey to simplistic generalities, I am of the view that, given a choice, I do not see why anyone would select a living arrangement which involved so much movement from house to house."
California has a law that says you cannot recover more than $250,000 for pain and suffering in a medical malpractice lawsuit against a health care provider. Statutes that limit recover in wrongful death lawsuits, if any, will vary by state. What may be true in California isn't necessarily true in Texas, so it isn't really possibly to answer your question unless you disclose where you are from.